When I gave birth to my daughter just over three years ago I never could have imagined how my life would change. Or what I would lose or may gain from having her in my life. I started to realize that not only did I give birth to the most purest and innocent soul that could exsist but that through her life I would gain so much more in mine, one of the gifts her life brought to mine was an extended family. A family not related by blood but by loss of dreams, rebirth of dreams, hope, fear, sorrow, happiness, support and ultimately love.
We are a blended family united by a bond words cannot describe. You see we share much more than what the eye can see, we are parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, god-parents, therapists, teachers and friends of special human beings. Race,color or economic status do not define us, as we are from all walks of life. Some rich, some poor and some right in the middle. But we share a common bond of silent understanding and unconditional love combined with an endless amount of patience we never thought possible.
We are an extended family from birth. From the birth of that special person who has touched our lives we are united in a way that most cannot understand. My extended family is in the hundreds and while I have only met a handful in person I feel like I have known them all my life. I know their names, their loved ones names. I can remember their triumphs and heartache. How I remember all the names and families is beyond my understanding especially when I cannot remember a conversation I had a few hours earlier but I do. You can ask me about a parent and I can name their child or vice versa.
Facebook is my connection to my extended family additional to my blog. I don’t know what I would do without it. You see I’m not a phone person at all. I email or text but phone calls, not me. If someone calls me well that’s a different story, I will talk and talk (I’m a talker) but I don’t initiate phone calls. Odd if you think about it because I’m such a social person. Don’t know why but I just don’t pick up the phone to call anyone. So Facebook and blogging are my connection to the world. I can celebrate triumphs and amazing moments with my friends and family. And I can also offer love and support to those in need of it. I can start prayer chains when healing is needed and let them know that they are always in my thoughts at any moment of the day. It’s such n amazing resource to have.
Most think that family are those related by blood lines but I can tell you from experience that family is not defined by blood but in fact by those persons who are there for you, offer support and encouragement even if from a distance. Family are those that keep you in their thought’s, who always wish the best for you and if given the chance would help you in a heartbeat without expecting anything in return. My extended familiy will not judge me because they know the road I have taken requires multiple sets of shoes and most of the times they have been through several pairs already.
When I’m asked if I have support of family I can say yes because my extended family, well they are and will always be there for me. And that’s good enough for me!