True Friendships

Friendships, they are so important in our lives, especially for women. We need those connections to help us through out our lives. The companionship, trust, acceptance and comfortable silences. It’s a sisterhood bound by the ties of life.

If there is one thing I have learned is that friendships are like marriage, they take work, love and dedication. And ultimately honesty, because no relationship is successful without it. In my lifetime I can count on two hands the number of true friendships I have and have had combined. Sure I’ve had many acquaintances but true friends have been few and far between.

Despite how much you care for someone if there is not honestly there can be no trust. And when the relationship is one-sided it is only a matter of time before it falls apart.

I recently experienced what I now know as a convenience friendship. In the beginning I thought I was forging a true friendship but, I was wrong. The friendship was one-sided, I was fed up of  having a friend only when it was convenient for them. It was all about what I could do to help them, what they could take from me that would benefit them. It’s amazingly sad how people advantage of your kindness and then turn around and talk about you after you have done nothing but help them.

I learned my lesson and finally heeded my husbands wise words to stop letting people take advantage of me. You see I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but the problem is no matter how much you want something to work not everyone is compatible for friendship.

Some friendships become distorted with life’s circumstances. It does not mean they were bad friendships actually those could be the greatest ones, but life happens and things change. It does not mean you forget it just means you move on.

Those we allow to enter into our lives leave memories and footprints in our hearts. Some of those memories can be wonderful, others are lessons  we can learn from.  I had a great friendship end, it still breaks my heart everyday because it was someone I truly loved and trusted but I had to move on.  I will always have the wonderful memories we shared but our time came and went.

True friendships are those who are always there no matter what. Those who can see you without judging you but whom have the valor to be honest when necessary. True friends are the ones who stay with you through the best and worst of times. True friends will laugh with you and help bring the sunshine back into your life. Time and distance do not exist in a  true friend ship.

True friendships are truly a sisterhood, and if your lucky they will last a life time.  So be true to those who are true to you, always tell them how much they mean to you. I received this message this morning from my dear friend Glenna, she is my rock! It was my motivation for this post. The true friends I have and have had in my life I will cherish, always.

Never take for granted the time you have with those you care about, life is too short to live without those who make you happy.

*Look carefully in each picture for the cat as it makes its way down from the roof to the dog. Then, check the explanation at the end. 

True friendship

The story behind this picture is this:

Every day – at the same time – she waits for him.

 Sometimes she barks to call him.

He comes.  They rub and greet each other and they go for a walk.

 They have done this for 5 years — and no, they don’t belong to the same owners.

The owners didn’t know until neighbors seeing them together so frequently commented to the cat’s owner, who then followed the dog home which was a distance away – not in a house close or next door.

 How it started no one knows.

Wouldn’t it be great to have friends like this – always there. No words needed, they just intuitively recognize the value of each other in their lives and act accordingly.

Live, Laugh, Love. Life is not the way it’s supposed to be, It’s the way it is. The way we cope with it is what makes the difference.



One thought on “True Friendships

  1. Karen Hendricks

    I agree 100%, Charity! Friendships are a vital part of women’s lives. I too recently had a heart-breaking experience with a friendship ending… a woman who ultimately was jealous of me, my family, my children’s accomplishments/talents. Very sad situation… rather than being happy for me and my family, she was jealous and unkind. I know it is painful, but it’s good that you see your “friend’s” true colors now for what they are. Be well and nourish those friendships that are truly healthy. 🙂


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